"Next time, we start the party three hours earlier so we can fit in both a game of Talisman and massages for everyone in the same night."I showed up a bit late--I left misha's later than I thought I would, and forgot that I was going to need to both run Chris home and stop by the house to feed the cats before heading south. I did make it, though, and changed into my slinky satin silver nightgown and let my hair out of its braids to float around my head. And so we sat and talked and ate (everyone brought food! it was amazing) and played games. I was in the Talisman group, and we played the game for three and a half hours. At about 2 AM I made a suicidal run to the tower and died at the "dice with death" square, and then went and watched part of a Jackie Chan movie and got my shoulders rubbed.
And then I plopped my sleeping bag on the couch and slept. It was, officially, a slumber party, and so a bunch of people slept over. In the morning we had biscuits and jam and mimosas, and it felt decadent as we sprawled around the room bonelessly, drinking champagne at 10 AM. We were talking and talking and then it was time for most everyone to go home and for gaming to begin.
It was a good weekend. I hung with the Bindle folks and then there was this party, and I wasn't home most of the weekend and I was okay with that, too.
And then we finished gaming early and I went home and picked up the house and did yet another drop in the "cleaning up cat hair" bucket. I swear they import it. They *can't* be shedding all this hair. If they were, they'd be bald, and none of them are.
But it was a nice, low-key evening. I needed a bit of time to unwind.
My "Bad! Bad BBS Luser! Bad!" list:[this is following in the tradition of the Bad Kitty List and is sparked by the self-destruction of what used to be one of my favorite BBSes. This is a list of phrases people can write on the board, Bart Simpson-style. This is only a start.]
- I will be excellent to my fellow lusers.
- I can eschew cretinous behavior, I can, I can, I can.
- I can look up any words I do not understand in the rule above.
- I will not jump headfirst into a new BBS. I will lurk and read for at least two weeks prior to beginning to post. I will use this time to notice what topics go in what forums, what tone I should adopt when posting, and what the other lusers find interesting.
- I am a BBS luser, not an avant-garde writer. I must remember to use standard spelling, punctuation, word spacing, and paragraph spacing.
- I will not write posts longer than a paragraph without placing a line of blank space between paragraphs. I know that some of my fellow lusers are visually impaired, and I will be nice to them.
- I will not treat my fellow lusers with disdain. It only makes me look stupid.
- I can manage to go for a day without flaming anyone. Really. I can.
- I will not respond to trolls.
- When I get in trouble on a BBS, I will not go to another BBS and repeat the same behavior. My smackdowns will come ever more quickly the worse my reputation gets.
- I am not e. e. cummings.
- Silence is the best response when someone I do not like posts or xes me.
- I will not contract 'you' to 'u', 'are' to 'r', or any other such thing. It makes me look like a tool.
- I am not surgically attached to my net connection. Should anyone or anything online make me mad, I will log off and go away. Only when I have calmed down will I return.
- I will not continue to remain in a community I have been ostracized from. It only upsets everyone.
- I will not treat anything I post on a BBS as confidential.
- I will not beg the admin to make me an admin, too.
- If I leave a BBS, I will do so quietly. If I leave a BBS in a big huff, I will not come back a month later. If I come back, I will be properly contrite.
- I will not, after my request for a new forum has been turned down, whine, snivel, complain, or yell about it.
- If I break up with my partner, I will confine myself to posting sad stuff to the forum(s) dedicated to such things. I will not spew bitterness with every single post I make.
- Even if I am the bombdiggity, I will refrain from acting smug all the time.
- Only really cute girls can get away with words like 'nummy'.
- I will not introduce myself to lusers by inquiring about their gender.
- I will not attempt to netsex/phonesex female lusers. It makes them mad and will get me twitted if I persist.
Things proceed. I think I speak for both Chris and I when I say that I have no idea what's happening with whatever the heck is going on between us. It feels like the relationship is trying to evolve into something more than it is, and I'm fighting, kicking and screaming, the entire way.On the other hand, I'm also kind of sitting back and enjoying myself, some. It feels good, I'll not deny that. But...I'm waiting.
For what?
I really have no idea.
